Are you looking for exclusions for the Patch Manager SERVER... or for the clients installing updates?
looks like i may have found it. was looking for exclusions for the server itself.
Windows Server 2003 and Windows XP:
c:\Documents and Settings\All Users\Application Data\SolarWinds\
c:\Program Files\Common Files\SolarWinds\
c:\Program Files\Microsoft SQL Server\
Windows Server 2012, Windows Server 2008, Windows Vista, and Windows 7
c:\Program Files (x86)\Common Files\SolarWinds\
c:\Program Files (x86)\Microsoft SQL Server\
c:\Program Files (x86)\SolarWinds\
The only thing I would recommend excluding from AV/AM for the *SERVER* is the packages subfolder tree, as all of those files are normally already code-signed.
For the *CONSOLE* you'd want to exclude a portion of the %AppData% folder, because cached copies of those binaries are downloaded there before being transferred to the Patch Manager server.
Excluding the two database files: eminentware.mdf and eminentware_log.ldf is also useful (as is the case for any MDF/LDF files).