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Day 21: Love

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My in-laws arrived today, which also kicked off many days of cooking. I express love through food preparation, and will be expressing my love for my family through an abundance of cooking and baking in the coming days.

Whether it’s the day-of turkey festivities, complete with recipes shared by family and friends – onion pie from my in-laws, my sister-in-law’s cranberries, my Dad’s whipped Irish mashed potatoes, and gravy that recalls memories of being in entirely another room when my father called my name in panicked response to a lid-less blender making quick work of the giblets – every recipe calls forth warm memories of holidays spent with loved ones.

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Many believe cooking to be a form of spell-casting – a way of making manifest in delicious, physical form love for family, friends, and anyone else who happens by one’s home. I firmly ascribe to this theory, and can’t allow anyone into our home without a ridiculous amount of food to accompany their arrival. There are many family jokes about my family’s late hour of dining due to the volume and number of dishes which must be prepared, and we [I] typically prepare enough for an army, as is our way.

I wish you and your loved ones days of delicious eating. I hope you, too, cook or bake something – however simple – that delivers your love in edible form. And I send wishes of future bounties for all who may find this year one of trial and tribulation, whether due to rough years, or conflict, or any circumstance.

And if you should find yourself in my neighborhood someday, I’ll welcome you with open arms, a warm hearth and kitchen, and whatever happens to be in our pot or oven. May the holiday season greet you and yours warmly, and may all the love you desire be freely offered and received.

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I am usually as pro-Murica as anyone, but the English Language falls short on "love".  Many other languages have multiple words for love in its varying degrees.  But not us.  We just have "love"

I love my wife.  I love bar-b-que pizza.  I love my kids.  I love my job.  I love God.  I love football.

Lots of different feelings, but only one word for "Love". 

I guess we could always go junior high "Do you like her?  or do you like LIKE her"

Love is a powerful word use it.  And make sure others know you love them.

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For me Christmas is a time for family.  Although we take great pains to express our love for each other by spending time and money on gifts, I think it is the quiet times we share talking, relaxing and hanging out that I feel it the most.  Sometimes we try too hard to show love and it expresses itself strangely.  Its that quiet flow when you feel it all around you that it manifests itself the brightest.

I think it was Twain who said, "If you love what you do you'll never work a day in your life." No truer words have been spoken.

Someone else once said, "To toil is therapy." In my childhood I never understood why my father loved his garden so. As I became an adult and started to understand my father more I came to realize why.

Love is expressed so many different ways and the emotion broadcasts out across the spectrum of existence. Our love can bring us immense joy in seeing a family member return home from being deployed overseas. Or love can bring us dehabilitating sadness in the grief of a family member who has died.

I am blessed with lots of love around me. May everyone have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays.

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The best thing is unconditional love, when you find it stick with it, you don't need an ideology or a world view.

"For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love." - Carl Sagan

Happy Saturnalia, Yule, Xmas to one and all!!!

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Love the work you do as how you love yourself

if you do not love what you do then its gonna be a mess that not only affect you but everyone directly/indirectly

so start loving

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So many things to say about Love, there is way to many to list. God said to " Love thy Neighbor", maybe if more people love their neighbor we would have less violance today and more compassion for others in the world. The world has lost that loving feeling for one another and it has turned into a world of just individuals. I guess it is good that I am typing this now for today, since it is me and my wife's 29th anniversary today, which our marriage has always been filled with Love for each other.

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(Sorry, this may be a bit heavy)

It's so cliche' to say you don't know how much you have until it's gone, but!

I grew up in a small family (a big Christmas gathering would be mom, dad, sister, grandma, grandpa, uncle and myself) When I first got married - many moons ago - my wife was Cuban and our first Christmas together was when I met "the rest of the family" 50 loud, loving and expressive Cubans met me at the door - all in a row. You enter, get a kiss on the cheek and a hug, move down the line kiss and hug, and on and on. It was miserable (or so I thought at that time) for a person coming from a small family - which was not very expressive at all. I no longer live in Florida where all the "family" lives. Over the years I learned to appreciate those times together and what it really meant to meet everyone at least once a year. But every Christmas when my kids talk about the holidays with family I tell them how great it is and encourage them, but inside I hurt a little that I no longer have that level of love in my life.

Learn to appreciate the love(s) that you have in your life while you have them. Learn to reciprocate that love. Build memories so that you have something to hang onto once "it's gone."

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Francesca Battistelli's Song - Worth It

Love is a hunger

But love won't leave you empty

See it's the language of the heart

Love can steal your pride

But love won't let you hide

It takes everything you've got

Love's not easy

But it's worth it

This is what i posted on the non official post,

Love:

One word with so many meanings.   Its used to build up, tear down, fall apart and come together.  W@rs have started because of it, kingdoms have fallen for it.  People lose their minds over it.  Is it a chemical response, a deep seeded feeling, the secret to life?  you you be happy with out love? Love can be changed, lost, stolen, found, strange, hot, great, blind, and a first sight.   "Love is only a lie" - from Great White, a song for a broken heart.

My Love Poem:

Love is the greatest when given, and seems better when received.   Cherish it when you have it, ignore it and it will leave. Love is great when new, and can last as long as life, but my love for my one and only, is eternity with my wife.  Love hurt and is soft, its strong and its tough, love is the simply the greatest when shared with the some one you love true.  Forever and ever love between the two.

I hope everyone has love, for a while.  at least one, for a smile.  It has many forms though some might not be right, love whole hearted and don't let it go with out a fight.

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I love Francesca - great person, great voice.

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Me too tallyrich She's my favorite musician.

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Love is a verb

Love is a noun,

Love is a person

Of great renown.

The verb should be active

And constantly shown,

Publically demonstrated

To all you have known.

The noun is a gem

That perfectly glows,

When attentively nurtured

Continuously grows.

The person is Christ

And He is the reason,

For this wonderful and

Beautiful Christmas season.

Perhaps more has been written about this four-letter word than any other word. And it's the topic of more songs than I can count.

Define it completely in a short phrase--that's probably not going to happen to everyone's satisfaction.  But it's a word for that something within most of us that steers our thoughts, that controls our hormones, that causes us to feel happy or sad.  And it's so context-dependent!  I love my Sugar-Frosted Flakes in whole milk.  But that's a very different kind of feeling than the love a person feels for a parent, a spouse, a child, a song, a color, a sensation, a nation, an automobile, shoes, a painting, or a song. 

To borrow words from a song recorded by Tom T. Hall, I love little baby ducks, old pickup trucks, winners when they cry, losers when they cry, music when it's good, and life.

Nothing I can write can give an extraterrestrial being an idea of what love means to humans, how its presence makes positive impact to our physical and mental health. Nor how its loss can devastate us. Similarly, imagining a human without the capacity or ability to love might be one definition of an alien creature.  At best we might describe them as cold or uncaring or worse.

While driving long distances with my children, we sometimes pass the hours playing a little thinking/singing game we call "A Capella." In this game we agree on a word--any word--and sing a line of a song that contains that word.  The rule is you can't make the lyrics up, and you must sing at least six words of a line in the song containg the word.  We have fun with words for colors, and words on road signs, and strange words.  The last person who can think of, and sing, the word wins the round.  Then they get to choose the next word we all must work with.  We can go around the car many times singing songs containing the word "love".  And each song contains a bit, but never the whole meaning, of that little four-letter word.

I like a description of love from Robert A Heinlein's Stranger In A Strange Land:  “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”

I also am a fan of a song recorded by Johnny Cash (and many others):  "A Thing Called Love":

Six-foot-six, he stood on the ground
He weighed two hundred and thirty-five pounds
But I saw that giant of a man brought down to his knees by love

He was the kind of a man who would gamble on luck
Look you in the eye and never back up
But I saw him cryin' like a little whipped pup because of love

You can't see it with your eyes, hold it in your hand
But like the wind that covers our land
Strong enough to rule the heart of any man
This thing called love

It can lift you up, never let you down
Take your world and turn it all around
Ever since time, nothing's ever been found
That's stronger than love.

Most men are like me: they struggle in doubt
They trouble their minds day in and day out
Too busy with livin' to worry about a little word like love
But when I see a mother's tenderness
As she holds her young close to her breast
Then I thank God that the world's been blessed
With a thing called love

You can't see it with your eyes, hold it in your hand
But like the wind that covers our land
Strong enough to rule the heart of any man
This thing called love

It can lift you up, never let you down
Take your world and turn it all around
Ever since time, nothing's ever been found
That's stronger than love

Ever since time, nothing's ever been found
That's stronger than love

A gospel group called The Imperials recorded a version of this song back in the 1970's; it's long held my affection, and can be heard here:  https://youtu.be/qtqchpR-NXM?t=10

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I've met so many Christian artists over the years it's hard to say favorite - but pushed to choose I'd say Crowder. He looks like a homeless guy with a guitar (his words, not mine - but I have to agree). He has such a good heart, a great person, great song writer and voice. I used to live in Oklahoma City and it seems like all the artists tour through there. I volunteered with Compassion International, so I got to see a lot of concerts while doing that.

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I have to agree with bsciencefiction.tv​ love is woefully limited to describe the range of emotions we assign to love. It reminds me of the adage "The opposite of love is not hate but indifference." How much does it matter to you? How much energy are you willing to dedicate to the object of your love? Do you structure you life around that object? etc.

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That's good to know tallyrich​ The description of Crowder made me laugh, I listen to a few of his songs and then maybe, when he sings when he is with the Passion Music Band.

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I am not much for expressing my love for people in an outward fashion. I have never been much for expressing my feelings verbally. My close friends and family know this, but to others they don't and they think I am cold or don't care. Now days in this consumer economy I think to many people expect grand outward expressions and displays to be made to express love. That generally does not jive with us Introverted people though. We express it differently.

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yep, English definitely isn't a "Romance" language is it

We need more words for love than we have.

I love my wife, family, job & car - but I'd better not mix those types of love up

for reference - apparently the only difference between Romance (languages) and romance (love) is the capital R - who knew?

My music collection is not larger by some measures, yet it contains 245 songs [16 hours] with Love in the title. Myriad ways of describing an intense emotion. When we have a passion for something or someone English does leave us a little short on words, yet because of that our literature, music, and culture are filled with all types of prose and poems to describe these feelings.

Expressing love to another, just in words, can be scary, but worth the risk. Taking that leap feels like you are falling off a cliff but focusing on love will make you miss the ground and that is all it takes to fly!

I love my wife and my dog(s). I am passionate about food, coffee, and bocce ball. I have an intense liking of music, theater, and movies. I try to have compassion for my fellow human beings.

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I love that I am close to getting some Solarwinds socks

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I'm pretty sure they could be the same thing . . .

Actually, from a psychology stand point, with references and nods to salivating dogs, one COULD associate bacon with love, if one was raised in a household where someone, let's say your mother, loved you and cooked bacon for you as a special treat, and as a sign of her love for you.

It might be easy to directly associate the smell of cooking bacon with the love of your parent--strongly enough that smelling bacon means "love" to you.

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Can't believe this got edited. What a shame.

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I love music.  Above everything else, music has been my life. An die freude!

Lyric from a punk music love song a friend wrote in college.

"I don't love you, I just hate you less than everyone else."

Lance Lindley

It was sung to a fast bouncy beat like the Ramones would play.

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Catching up on my podcasts from this weekend I listened to This American Life and they had a segment on "puppy love" as part of the Kid Logic episode.

Made me think of the first girl I kissed - Mary Ann in Kindergarten - yikes. That was a social disaster. Then there was the first girl I had a puppy love crush on - Beth Ann. That lasted a long time for me [almost the entire 3 years of middle school] but it was not to be.

All I can say is I am so glad I met my wife and truly love her WAY MORE THAN Mary or Beth....I WIN!

A shorter boy I knew had similar crises in grade school, which lasted through middle school and into high school.  Eventually his first love turned out to have behaviors he deplored, and he moved on.  But his heart was stolen at too early an age.

All his potential lady friends moved him to the "friend zone", and his chances of getting dates decreased  with time.  He has hopes, but not much more than that.

I became aware of a study within the last few years that correlated women's attraction to men based on the physical characteristics and the financial capabilities of the men.

The study concluded that a significant number of women tended to fall in love with men who were easily seen as providers of both good genetic material and finance.  Shorter men were less attractive to these women than taller men.  Taller men who dressed better and who wore better hair cuts were found more desirable than men of similar height who sported less fancy clothing or hair styles.

BUT.   There was a point at which a 5' 6" man was considered equivalently attractive to a 6' 1" man:  The shorter man had to bring home $80K more per year than the taller man.  Obviously the shorter man can provide a better home, then.  Despite not being the carrier of traits like height and good hair.

Now, if only I could figure out how women can recognize what a man's Net Pay is, just by them looking at him . . .

And how love plays into all this.

You can Google the topic (study about what women find attractive in men, height, income) and find multiple studies from Duke University, Psychology Today, etc. that detail the above information.  I'd love to post their links here, but they'd be blocked.

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Love yourself as you need to be able to truly love yourself before you can properly love others.

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tomiannelli​ sounds like you are doing better than me.  The first girl I tried to kiss in Kindergarten didn't want to have anything to do with kissing me so I had to hold her down; later I learned about how that kind of thing is frowned upon! 

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Love who you are and what you can become

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"Love your neighbor as yourself.’There is no commandment greater than these.”

Mark 12:31

    

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"This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you."

John 15:12

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So true...

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Love what you do and you will never work a day in your life!

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I feel like dogs know how to do it properly. They just LOVE you UNCONDITIONALLY!

No matter what happens, sooner or later you get that tail wagging of happiness again and he/she jumps at you to share it's kisses with you SLOBBERING ALL ACROSS YOUR FACE IN THE PROCESS!

Humans can love unconditionally as well, but I have yet to come across a human or any animal that outdoes what the dog does. Which is to love no matter what. [don't get me wrong, humans can certainly love, A LOT, but really for some reason dogs have their own level of love].

I don't know where it comes from or how they have the energy to love so much, but they dooo! Now I want to go home and give squishy hugs to my two dogs.

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I too love dogs... they are the best!

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This always takes me back to a book that I read in the 90s (which has since become a very solid movie)

The Perks of Being a Wallflower by Steven Chbosky

One line, among the many, that has always stuck with me and I have found to be an almost universal constant:

People accept the love they think they deserve.

Just wow.

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2016 - Many people say this was one of the worst years in recent history.

I think it was one of the best. And I will tell you why. Love.

This year many people lost what they love. I think it made us appreciate what we love and what love we have lost.

Whether you loved or hated 2016, you will remember it.

I too, love to cook. I fear for how much I love it if I ever go visit kong.yang​, because our mutual appreciation of food may be our eventual downfall

I love to cook as a group though, as I feel it represents togetherness.

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love my job, so I not work one day.

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Love lifted me when nothing else could help.

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I love data and bacon, and not always in that order.

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Data wrapped in bacon would make every presentation better! Take that PowerPoint!

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Love is why the world is in existence.