Writing Challenge Day 1: Connecting in a Disconnected World

PREFACE:

To kick off this year’s Writing Challenge, I’ll address one of the most obvious, persistent, and pervasive issues we face: we’re not together. Not as coworkers; nor as friends; and not even as families beyond those who are living in our particular “COVID bubble” (which, sadly, is now a thing we say).

I chose the topic not only because it’s an unavoidable reality, but also to highlight the theme of the Writing Challenge this year: “Accentuate the Positive.”

You see, it would be easy to focus on what’s wrong. It would be equally easy to focus on how to mitigate, “hack,” or get around the problem. But neither of those approaches is the aim in this challenge. The trick this month is for us to find the silver lining—the nugget of goodness hidden behind the obvious difficulties—and to amplify it. By accentuating the positive in each writing prompt, I hope to chart a path through the problems we face and emerge stronger and better for it.

With all of that laid out, here is my contribution to the 2020 December Writing Challenge:

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It’s ironic how getting what we thought we wanted taught us how much we needed things we thought we were better off without.

Bored by idle chitchat, we wished everyone would focus on topics of global importance.

Uncomfortable with social gatherings, we craved solitude.

Overwhelmed by family obligations, we prayed for a convenient, guilt-free excuse. Distracted by constant interruptions, we bargained and even begged for work-from-home options... and so on.

It barely requires explanation the way in which those desires have been fulfilled, and the horrible, almost ironic, price we paid (and continue to pay) for it.

In the irony and horror, it’s easy to miss what was gained: unanticipated perspectives and unforeseen appreciations:

Asking “How are you?” and truly wanting to know;
...and actively listening for (and to) the response.

Making space in our day for “idle chit chat”—unassuming conversation about unimportant things;
...and cherishing the chance to put aside the burdensome weight of the world and lose ourselves in a moment of mundanity.

Reconnecting with nature and the physical world, far from crowds and spectacles;
...and rediscovering the simple miracles which continue to occur all around us.

Becoming reacquainted with quiet and solitude—either in our homes or in our heads;
...and relearning every thought need not be spoken aloud, nor every second filled with sound.

Praying without the hustle and bustle and pomp of the sanctuary and the service;
...and looking for (and even forward to) moments to connect to the Divinity both around us and inside us.

Maybe you haven’t found all of these, but I’m ready to bet you’ve experienced at least some. Now, nobody—least of all me—is implying those small sparks of light are worth the darkness currently in the world. But if you’ve experienced them, then failing to acknowledge them would make it all much sadder. Wasteful. Even tragic.

I’m inviting you to put down your mouse, close your screen, sit back for a moment, and see if (and how) those things have changed you. And then share with us in the comments below.

Parents
  • I hate using the phone. I really like talking to a person face-to-face. In a WFH situation I have to use the phone a lot more and my comfort level with it is getting better. This isn't to say that once I get on the phone with someone I won't talk to them for hours, but it is or was the start of the call I couldn't get over. Now with everyone doing video calls, I am ALL OVER THAT! I love seeing folks and talking. Not that it makes up my whole day, but there is a lot more of it.

    My wife comes from a really large family and so I purchased a Zoom yearly subscription so we can host calls at the drop of a hat. We were doing calls every Sunday for a few months, now it is every other one. It lasts about 2 hours and I have it set up for her on the TV with a web cam on a tripod, ring light, and green screen. Every call is a different background.

    With my family I see my Dad and Step Mom the other weekends and we play games and get dinner. We each have food delivered about the same time - they eat late we eat early. It lasts about 4 hours. The games we play are EXIT games where we all work together to solve the riddles. We purchased all the games online and had copies sent to them in NJ. We used to talk for hours on the phone at least once a month. Now we get to see them. I do really need to get them some better lighting equipment at some point.

    We missed out on a few things that I hope will return next year. The Minnesota SWUG and Ren Faire being a big one. Annual visits from our Niece and "the girls", and playing Bocce Ball every Tuesday night! I mean I didn't even groom or prep the court this year.

    In completely different vein, we are fortunate enough to not have needed the US stimulus funds. So we gave it all away to various charities. We also have spent time and money making things for family members to assist in their efforts on the frontlines of the pandemic response. This historically bad event does present unique opportunities for philanthropy and charity. So many are in need of food, funds to stay in their homes, and even if they can stay in their homes paying for utilities. For those of us saving money because the commute, expensive coffees, and eating out for lunch and dinner are all gone - the present circumstance gives us unique opportunities to help others in need. Making monetary donations to your food banks, public radio and TV stations, local theaters, homeless shelters, etc. can go a long way. We have been giving more than usual to all of these organizations.

    It is too easy to overlook that many of them have missed out on the huge gathering fund raisers that helped keep them going. If you can't have your booth at the Iowa State Fair because it got cancelled or hold your annual Mardi Gras Gala because gatherings are forbidden, then your operating funds are dramatically reduced.

    My wife and I a very grateful that for now we have the means to pay it forward.

Comment
  • I hate using the phone. I really like talking to a person face-to-face. In a WFH situation I have to use the phone a lot more and my comfort level with it is getting better. This isn't to say that once I get on the phone with someone I won't talk to them for hours, but it is or was the start of the call I couldn't get over. Now with everyone doing video calls, I am ALL OVER THAT! I love seeing folks and talking. Not that it makes up my whole day, but there is a lot more of it.

    My wife comes from a really large family and so I purchased a Zoom yearly subscription so we can host calls at the drop of a hat. We were doing calls every Sunday for a few months, now it is every other one. It lasts about 2 hours and I have it set up for her on the TV with a web cam on a tripod, ring light, and green screen. Every call is a different background.

    With my family I see my Dad and Step Mom the other weekends and we play games and get dinner. We each have food delivered about the same time - they eat late we eat early. It lasts about 4 hours. The games we play are EXIT games where we all work together to solve the riddles. We purchased all the games online and had copies sent to them in NJ. We used to talk for hours on the phone at least once a month. Now we get to see them. I do really need to get them some better lighting equipment at some point.

    We missed out on a few things that I hope will return next year. The Minnesota SWUG and Ren Faire being a big one. Annual visits from our Niece and "the girls", and playing Bocce Ball every Tuesday night! I mean I didn't even groom or prep the court this year.

    In completely different vein, we are fortunate enough to not have needed the US stimulus funds. So we gave it all away to various charities. We also have spent time and money making things for family members to assist in their efforts on the frontlines of the pandemic response. This historically bad event does present unique opportunities for philanthropy and charity. So many are in need of food, funds to stay in their homes, and even if they can stay in their homes paying for utilities. For those of us saving money because the commute, expensive coffees, and eating out for lunch and dinner are all gone - the present circumstance gives us unique opportunities to help others in need. Making monetary donations to your food banks, public radio and TV stations, local theaters, homeless shelters, etc. can go a long way. We have been giving more than usual to all of these organizations.

    It is too easy to overlook that many of them have missed out on the huge gathering fund raisers that helped keep them going. If you can't have your booth at the Iowa State Fair because it got cancelled or hold your annual Mardi Gras Gala because gatherings are forbidden, then your operating funds are dramatically reduced.

    My wife and I a very grateful that for now we have the means to pay it forward.

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