Being someone raised in a household with very stubborn parents, arguments were the core of my existence. As a parent myself, I have learned to not escalate arguments—although sometimes they are bound to happen. However, I want to immediately acknowledge multiple meanings of arguments within the IT world. Both of which we usually end up intimately aware.


We have:

interpersonal arguments

scripting arguments


My focus here is on interpersonal arguments. We all have them from time to time. I feel there are three core things to remember about all arguments:


  1. Words can hurt. Things said in an argument may be hurtful.
  2. It's ideal to be calm, but that's not a guarantee. Live and learn and do your best!
  3. Make amends. Arguments are one thing, but holding a grudge will never help anyone.


The thing is, no matter how strong an argument gets, it's crucial to remember that an argument is not going to last forever. Buddhism has a concept for this called "Right Speech," which says "Speak only words that do no harm. One should speak only that word by which one would not torment oneself nor harm others. That word is indeed well spoken."


What do you think of when it comes to an argument?